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Note to Self || If I Could Go Back

Saturday, November 14, 2015
Happy Saturday!! So I have been putting this together for awhile now because there are certain things I wish I knew before hand to let me know and to just give me hope or peace of mind. It's important to know to trust yourself and know you're not alone in this crazy journey of finding what kind of mom YOU are. Every mom is different and handles things differently so you have to sort through the advice of all your mom friends and find what's right for you. That being said here's my FYI's and advice...

Photography by: Natalie Schutt
> First off, Check your insurance! Don't assume that your doctor, anesthesiologist or nurse for the baby are covered under your plan just because your hospital is. Some places trick you, so make sure you ask questions and make sure that EVERYONE that will be helping is covered so you don't get a surprise bill! I avoided this because I read the same advice so I'm just passing it along! 

> Do NOT read What to Expect When Your Expecting unless you want to be scared! If you want to read a good book that will help you be more confident, try The Happiest Baby on the Block. They also have a movie style of the book that I heard is good as well.

Labor is not as bad as you think. And I don't mean stress wise because it's stressful hoping you have a healthy delivery, part of being a parent. However, pain wise...our bodies are made to give birth and whether your on meds or not (I prefer on meds but that's me), it's the recovery that's hard and painful. Especially if you don't take it easy.

> DO wake a sleeping baby until they return to birth weight, don't listen to the myth of not waking a sleeping baby. The baby needs to be woken up to gain weight, help build your supply and clear the bilirubin out!


> It's ok to sit on the couch all day and recover, try to let yourself. You just pushed or had major surgery to have a baby come out of you, treat it as nothing less. Hint: use the cold ice packs for your lady parts to ease swelling and pain.

> Don't be scared of the healing newborn belly button, it will bleed a little and become dark. It doesn't have any feeling once it starts healing and peeling off so don't think your hurting your baby if you accidentally rub it, flipping down the top part of the diaper helps. It's just important to not get it wet (hence why there's no bathing until it falls off) and to keep it from getting infected. 

> They will cry, a lot, it will stop...put them down for a minute and get water or something...then go back and try to soothe again. Sometimes they just want to cry because they need you to figure out what's wrong. However, If it's insane crying or they are puking then you might have a colicky or reflux problem. Good news is reflux can be fixed and get better but having a colicky baby is going to take a lot of patience.

> You'll get better at listening to the crying for a little longer if you have to get yourself food, use the restroom or are driving and can't pull over right away. It'll get easier to handle, don't worry.

> The first six to eight weeks have a lot of milestones, just lower your head and power through them! That phase will end and get easier.

> Babies don't fall asleep just because you feed them, Although breast milk does have a calming property that makes them sleepy. It might take many more steps before they want to sleep, but they will. Just keep going through your pattern of gas pushes, boob/food, diaper check, temperature check (Pey liked to be in front of the fan when she was hot), bouncing/swing, change of scenery (they can have sensory overload)...etc. Biggest thing to know is that just because something didn't work the first time around, doesn't mean that's not what they want or need!

> If you are breastfeeding, I know it feels like your nipples are going to fall off or wondering if it's always going to feel like this and you just get used to the pain?! Not the case, well kinda, at about two months my nipples finally got used to everything and I no longer would need to jump or make an AH! sound. I'm assuming this will only last until she gets teeth, eek!

> As a new mom you might forget to do certain things like: changing their diaper before putting them to sleep or forgetting to burp them. I know it took me a little to get used to all the new steps so don't worry too much. 

> You will make mistakes, the worst part of that is that you will remember them but they won't.


> A trip to Target can be liberating, don't worry, you're not a bad mom if you're not a mess when you leave your baby for the first time. Same goes for the opposite, it's totally normal to also be a wreck leaving your baby for the first time. Everyone is different!

> Prego brain is a real thing but mommy brain is just straight Alzheimer's...you won't remember anything! Not even kidding, I forget things in the microwave, I forget where my phone is, texting or calling people back just doesn't happen and I can't remember to get my car keys...so I go inside to get them but forget why I did until I get back in the car again! Talk about a 5 second rule. 

> Don't buy a ton of newborn or 0-3 month clothes, you've heard this before but fo'reals. Peyton lived in onesies because they are the easiest to get her in and out of and for easier changing. I was just learning how to change a diaper with one hand, I can't be trying to take her pants, bows, romper off at the same time! Don't get me wrong, I put a bow on her and dressed her up a few times but they all had easy snaps and the bows came off as soon as she was back at home or out of sight. Oh and don't buy a lot of shoes unless they are size 2, it's ok and cute to buy a few crib shoes (newborn) but don't buy too many because they out grow them so fast!! Size 1 has been working for her at 3 months but she's almost grown out of them and when they are so new you don't take them out that much anyway, at least I didn't.

> Sweating all the time doesn't stop when the babies born, you will get hot flashes while feeding or if she starts getting fussy whether your in public or not. It's fun.

> Just when you start getting a little more time to yourself because she's sleeping longer, stage 3 month koala bear comes around. Around this time you will see how much your baby has become all about mommy and not so much daddy. She knows my drill now and will hold on to a piece of my clothing so I can't put her down without waking her, if she falls asleep. Sneaky sneaky girl.

>When you go out with the baby to run errands or do anything, you won't realize how exhausted and stressful it all was on you until you get home! It's like your body is in fight or flight mode the second you leave the house but you have no idea it did...I've had my days where I could throw up I'm so exhausted! So don't schedule too much in one day for yourself but also because it disrupts your babies natural need to sleep at certain times. This will cause a overly tired, fussy baby! 

> A big one, pre make food and freeze it!! Seriously! Do it! You get SOOOO hungry all the time, it's like your hunger has come to get it's 10 months back of eating!

> Worrying whether your baby is still breathing doesn't stop, even if she's laying directly on me, I still check to make sure she's breathing!

> Prepare your heart. All of a sudden you will feel everything, it will consume you. Their happiness, frustration, sadness, pain....you will feel everything. It all makes sense now, why my mom still cares soooo much about staying safe. The worrying never stops...how scary!!

> Lastly,  No matter how bad it gets and how tired you are, take a breath and know that there is ALWAYS an end to every stage! So just push through!

I definitely took for granted a lot of my freedoms before baby came, like I never thought I would have to control when I went number 1 versus number 2. It needs to be planned out or you will have to hold the baby whilst on the toilet, no joke it's already happened ( I get embarrassed when people know it too in the stalls next to me). Same goes for putting Pey in front of the TV or putting her favorite sing along song on my phone for her to watch. I never got why parents did this because it seemed like the easy way out, welllll I get it now. You all need to read this article that one of my mommy groups posted, Scary Mommy, it couldn't be more accurate and hilarious! In the end I am learning the hard way that I need to do what's best for my child, regardless of others opinions or what they think I should do. It does take a village but you decide when you need that village to help!

The "Pey" Times || Three Months

Wednesday, November 11, 2015
Well we're there, the three month mark where I would see other babies this age with their moms and think "they're huge!". Compared to my little newborn, they were! Now I have an actual baby with total mood swings, certain required nap times and her own sense of humor. They really aren't lying when they say it goes by fast, or rather they grow so fast! Peyton is in the 80% for her height and at a perfect weight for her height, which is surprising. I thought for sure the ped was going to tell me to cut down on feedings...I tease all the time that she's certainly not getting skim milk! My little chunkmunk....in love with every new roll she gets, its like it's an accomplishment lol. I'm definitely not over feeding her, don't get me wrong, she just loves her some bubbies.



Getting to this three month mark has been really fun and a learning experience...

- I now know why everything child related is colorful and I'm noticing it more and more, it's because babies LOVE color! I guess I just never really thought about it too much pre-baby.

-I also learned that in order to TRY to prevent blow-outs (Pooping out of the sides) that you pull out the second layer of diaper around their legs! I had no idea there was two layers. Hasn't been working very well with pooper Pey though, she's a side pooper if that's possible?! Probably because she squirms a ton on the changing table and it goes on crooked?

-I've also perfected the pinch and roll for babies, that's right...it's not just for men to itch the jewels lol. The pinch and roll on the diaper to feel if they need to be changed, comes in handy when diapers don't have the yellow to blue line, like Honest. If you're really brave you can add the smell to the pinch and roll. haha.


Anyway, time started going by super fast this month because she started sleeping for long stretches during the day and can self soothe for the most part. Therefore, that means mommy is running around trying to update her blog, while eating, while catching up on her "chick" shows, doing laundry, finishing dishes, scrolling through IG and painting her nails. haha. I've also decided that she has RBS which is restless body syndrome. In my stomach she was NON-STOP and now she must be moving something 90% of the day. Even while sleeping she liked the vibrating chair. she's starting to get better but I can tell she's gonna be that 5 month old that's twerking while feeding.

Which reminds me! Her two month shots (That she had at 2 1/2 months) went amazing, well for me anyway. I can't believe how fast the nurse did them, she let out a wail and than I stuck her face on my boob. I was so proud of myself for not crying and so happy that it wasn't ANYTHING like the initial shots she received in the first month.

And ok mommies, I'm at a loss. How do I get her to like her carseat?? I tried this mirrored light up musical thing that's controlled by a remote. I thought it was cool, she didn't. Any help please?!



Likes:

> Sucking on two to three fingers at a time- 9 weeks. Thank the lord because she's not a huge fan of the pacifier still
> Blow out's still....geezus... and yes I use a big enough diaper! 
> To watch the dogs walk around
> Talking...or baby talking, She's gonna have a lot to say
> Cuddling with mama (I read that this stage they like more cuddles...totally true)
> Rolling on her side from her back, 11 weeks
> Rolling on her BACK from her STOMACH!, 12 weeks
> Loving water more and more, starting to splash around
> Finding toys and actually holding them and shaking them
> Drooling and blowing bubbles a ton at 9 weeks
> Any word starting with a P she smiles...which is good cuz her name starts with a P! 

Dislikes:

> She's officially grown out of her vibrating seat, or rather she's not as big of a fan
> Not being held, she's my spider monkey
> Long walks on the beach lol, She can't handle the stroller for long amounts of time


This month has made me fall more in love with being a momma. They are right when they say things get easier and then other things get hard. She's not an easy baby by any means but she's bringing out the best in both of us. Every milestone is more precious than the last...and today she totally started giggling. I'm so lucky ☺️ Now on to the next month!

The Proposal: Saying "Yes" Forever | 10.23.15

Thursday, November 5, 2015
Hi ladies!! It's been a minute again, there's been a lot of changes and a lot going on. However, I wanted to share the most amazing part of my October and the second best thing to happen in 2015, my proposal!! For those who haven't been following for awhile, my fiancé (Wow that feels good) and I met in April of 2006, although I got his autograph at a No Fear event back in 1999. The start of our relationship was crazy and we had our fair share of up's and down's.. Relationships are NOT easy and they aren't suppose to be. You are basically deciding who you want to work with for the rest of your life because that's what relationships are, work. There's no other way to explain it, we have a very real relationship that goes deeper than any relationship we both have ever had. We fight, get annoyed, have things we both need to work on but can't imagine going through these things with anyone else! This is what life is about!


The day started out early and went by fast as usual, our first family photoshoot was planned for 4:30pm in Laguna Beach. We would shoot up by us in Redondo but I LOVE this beach as it has a Rapunzel tower! Or so I say it is anyway haha ;) Not to mention I shot my maternity pictures here as well and will probably shoot my engagement and wedding photos too. If you can't tell, yes I'm that sentimental...or as Rod would like to say, in a loving way, I'm "mental" lol.

Anyway, I knew it would take forever to get both Pey and I ready, as I haven't attempted to get all dolled up yet with a boobie crazed little girl! Well, I was right and we were running behind, so basically lesson learned. Think of how long it should take realistically to get ready with a baby and then add 2 more hours, no joke. I was already sweating off my makeup trying to get her ready for her torture chamber, aka her carseat, and we weren't even out of the door yet. 

This next part is where I'm learning to take life in stride and not let stupid things get in the way of what needs to get done or to make me happy. Being a mother,  this is the first thing that needs to exit your mind, expectations. The expectation that you'll be on time, that your baby will let you get ready, that she'll be good for awhile since you just fed her, expectations should never be in your mind once you have a baby. So of course to test this out, my car broke down on the way to the shoot, fun stuff when its 80 degrees out. So what do I do without even a thought?? Call my daddy haha. No but really, I called my dad to come trade cars with me and handle the situation so I could get to the photoshoot that I had been planning for 2 months! Yes, I'm crazy but I wasn't going to let anything come between me and pictures! haha

So without skipping a beat, we traded cars and we got to the shoot but only had about an hour of sunlight or "golden hour" left. We shot my two favorite looks and couldn't wait to shoot this one in the same mexican blanket I shot in my maternity photos in, again senti"mental". All was going well with the last 5 minutes of light and Rod starts walking toward me telling me how truly beautiful I looked. He definitely compliments me a lot but this was a little different and kinda made me blush. However, he kept walking toward me saying " So I stopped by your dad's house the other day...", I just remember telling him " BABE!...what are you doing!? We only have 5 more minutes left of light!", as I'm stepping away from him trying to still pose for the camera. Then he dropped down on one knee and I realized what he was doing! Everything from that point went blank, I don't remember anything he said and barely remember him even asking me to marry him. I do remember seeing this amazing ring and looking at his excited eyes and telling him YES, with tears in my eyes. He did good, I couldn't have been more surprised and having this memory in pictures is the best I could hope for!







The highlight reels of Instagram make everything look easy and perfect but for us it gets real
, especially with a new baby, but it's our kind of perfect. For me, he truly is the man of my dreams and I couldn't be happier! Truth be told, I would've said yes to him the day I met him and felt that crazy flutter, he is the definition of my love at first sight and I'm so happy to have him be my last.


Amazing Photography by: Natalie Schutt

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