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Be that Bridezilla, Please!

Friday, September 15, 2017
This post is for my future brides to be and coming from someone who purposely tried to take a more lax approach to my wedding planning, my biggest tip is BE A BRIDEZILLA! At the end of the day you have a vision and no one can see it as well as you. It's your job to make sure that everyone is aware of what you want and don't want as well as what your priorities are. Double check everything yourself unless you trust your coordinator to do so. So here it tips for your day (because lets face it, it is!)

Bridal Party: 

- They say to pick the people that have been in your life the longest, or that you see being in your life for the next 10 years or more. The people that you can't see NOT having up there with you, which turned out to be a lot for me! But also it is wise to think about how much they are a part of your life, if you have any sort of reservations about any of them and where their priorities are when it comes to your wedding and bridal duties, it's better to have them just attend as guests. You don't need the stress and this was some of the best advice I got from my coordinator. You must also be considerate if you know they are having a hard time, not everyone can afford the expenses that come from being in the bridal party because they add up fast!! So basically just take your time when deciding, no need to rush! Ok...may be a little

- I didn't have anything particular when it came to hair but if you do care about the over all look with your bridesmaids just make sure they know not to do anything drastic ie: dye their hair purple or chop it all off.

- Nails, I did make sure they all had nudes or neutrals so nothing stood out in pictures too much. Remember that the goal is to make sure that in pictures or videos that YOU stand out, so it is not too much to ask. They will understand!

- Make sure they know they have to all SMILE when they are standing up there with you! and if they are not smiling to just look over in your direction at least and try not to look bored lol. It's hard when you have a lot of bridesmaids/groomsmen but they are on video and in photos the whole time so I doubt they want to be the one looking miserable! Hopefully the coordinator can remind them of this before they walk down the aisle as well.

Makeup by Tiffany Briggs // The Makeup Artistry

-Obviously always do a makeup trial and take pictures after to see what it looks like on camera! It's great if you just coordinate the makeup trial day with your engagement photos. Also, make sure to have pictures of inspiration for the artist to go off of.

- Have a small purse!! You can always have the coordinator hold on to it for you. I didn't so I had no where to carry powder, undereye concealer, chapstick, lipstick, liner or my phone (yes I wish I had my phone to take little candid pix here and there). I needed ALL of these at some point and wish I brought them because it's a long day of emotions and especially if it's raining like it was for mine, you're gonna need the extra love!


Photography by Natalie Schutt // Natalie Schutt Photography

-Make a shot list for your photographer ( I forgot to finish mine!) so you know you have everything covered and you don't have to sound like the bridezilla asking everyone to stay for one on ones and all types of family pix. (very important if you have bad weather because it will be cold and you will feel rushed.)

- Let your photographer know what kind of shots you want and of who... for example if you want them to follow you around to the tables and take pictures of you with the guests or take pictures of the family tables or friends even if you're not with them etc. Don't be afraid to send photo examples or have 5-6 of your favorites to send her before the wedding of specific shots you love. My photographer has shot with me many times so she knew what I wanted and thankfully this was 1 area I didn't need to stress! I did, however, forget to walk around and take pictures with my friends and family :( SO much going on so have your photog remind you if this is important because you will forget!

- To first look or not to first look, It really is obviously up to you but sometimes things don't go the way you planned. For my wedding it was sprinkling all day and was suppose to start raining at 3pm or so which meant the possibility of no pictures after the ceremony (Even though I know my photog and I are always down for some rainy pictures!). Thinking back on it, although seeing him for the first time privately really was special, I still wish I would've just waited as I originally wanted. So stick with what you've always dreamed of doing and that applies to all aspects of your wedding. Oh and don't forget to do a first look with your DAD!!!


Videography by Tanner Dunn // The FRVR

Click Here to watch the full Wedding Video on my blog post

- First make sure if you are or are not getting the raw footage (I did and it's so nice to have those) but if you are not, ask them if they can at least record the full speeches or the full father daughter dance etc...because those you want to cherish and not just have little snippets of.

- Most people wouldn't think about this but make a shot list or a list of clips you for sure want in your video or footage you want in general. For example, think about the entire day and list a couple things you want to see. For me I wanted clips of my mom and bridesmaids helping me get ready, Rod getting ready, First look with future hubby and/or dad, Sparkler fun, the important dances of the night etc...most is common sense but you'd be surprised. Be safe and at least throughly check the past work and let them know what style you like. I think the one thing I told my videographer (besides song choices) was that I LOVE the look of heartfelt songs paired with fun clips of laughing or smiling. You can see what I mean in my video from the last post. Lastly, this goes along with what style of video you want but let them know whether or not you want talking in your video like hearing pieces of your vows etc. I'm not a fan of interrupting a beautiful song with the sound of my own voice haha so I opted to say no. :)


- You have your vision and you do the best to show them what you want without seeing it first hand so this is where you need to be the MOST specific even down to how much of a particular flower you want in your bouquet. Show them LOTS of inspo pictures!! They also often improvise if they didn't get a certain leaf or flower in so make sure to tell them what you absolutely don't want to replace it if they have too and whether you want them to let you know. They usually make your bouquet the night before so make sure they send you a picture so you can have them make any changes ahead of time. In my case there were a couple things I wish she would've told me before hand and she did have to make some changes to my bouquet once I got to our venue but I would've rather not dealt with that in that moment. Overall everything turned out beautiful but I definitely should've just re-confirmed everything (flowers, colors of flowers, the types of leaves etc) the week of.


- Please make a list of songs, even if they have a detailed website trying to narrow down the style you like, make one anyway of as many as you want. Minimum of 10.

- Pick your last two songs of the night to end with...It really makes the end of the night feel so much better. I picked Grease "Your the One That I Want" as my second to last song and Dirty Dancing "The Time of My Life" as my last song of the night!! SO fun!! I was very intoxicated...ok actually like EXTREMELY intoxicated but I do remember these two songs and my amazing sister in law letting me run to her as she lifted me up and spun me around Dirty Dancing style! haha! One of the best parts of the night for sure.

- Make sure he knows that (if you allow it) if someone requests a song, to play it when it fits into the night. Blend! Unless of course its you or the groom asking for it lol I know I had many drunken requests for my poor DJ.


- Make sure you vibe and she/he really see your vision, they may not agree but make sure they know to not pressure you. They have to know your budget and stick with it.

- I really appreciated when my coordinator took my wedding book and passed it around the room while they were eating so everyone could comment and sign it. Just something to let your coordinator know you want if they don't already know.

- Double check if they save you a box with some desserts and a slice of your cake. (Mine didn't and it really was such a bummer because I didn't think about it) Upside is I know where the shop is and I willlll be going to get the same cake for an anniversary someday. I used The French Confection Co. in LA and they were soooo good, speaking from the tastings anyway!

Last but not least, remember to stop and soak up different moments of the day. I made sure to look at everyone as I was walking down the aisle, just don't forget to look at your husband first! This day will go by so fast and no matter what doesn't go the way you planned, it will be a day to remember! I LOVED my wedding, I will never forget getting ready, singing "going to the chapel" on the way to the venue with all my bridesmaids, our pastor's words and connection to our family (since he's known rod since he was a kid), the speeches, Pey playing in the sand in our pictures, cake shoved in my face, the father daughter dance and our first dance but most of all having everyone that was their to make it so special.

Oh and if I forgot anything, please comment so others can learn from your tips as well!

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